Soon after I met JJ and a few of his friends he sent me an IM. “I’m going hiking with my friends and there will be questions about you…” You see, I answered his post on Craigslist. Not exactly the way real ‘Decent Indian Boys’ met women. “How should I say we met?” He asked.

“Serendipitously,” was my answer. I thought it was a good one.

I find all sorts of good things on CL. I met my friend S on CL. He answered my post. We decided we were not meant to be romantically involved, but we became very good friends right off. S is just simply one of the kindest people I know.

I have learned so much from him too. All these things that I never understood about JJ, I have come to discover that they are pretty standard Indian guy traits. He has helped me understand my own, poor assumptions. With him I have learned a lot about cultural differences of which I was completely unaware and he has given me a lot more empathy for the difficulties that JJ faced in dating me.  It’s funny, I feel that maybe I understand JJ better now than I did when we were together. Sometime you have to look through the eyes of others to see something new.

S has been arranging some hiking trips and I went on one last week with a whole groups of his friends whom I had never met. The days started off with a few small ironic things…Irony #1 (not so ironic in the greater scheme of things) one of his friends shares the same last name as JJ. Irony #2: She is from one of the cities I am going to soon.

But then it got a little weird….Irony # 3: She knows another friend of mine, through no other mutual connection, who I met because he answered a post for a room for rent off of CL. Irony #4: She met him in India! (Holy shit, out of how many billions of people?) Irony #5:  As we were hiking and chatting she said, “So, how do you know S?”

“Ummmm, through…well, by…. ummm…. maybe you’d better ask him.”

When I can’t sleep at night sometimes I browse the CL Missed Connections postings. They are funny and sometimes so very honest. Here are a few of my recent favorites:

I walked down the cleaning supplies isle both of your children were screaming off running to the bathroom. I got to the end of the isle and you turned and checked me out while running your hair through you hand while staring at me.
I was so turned on i walked away in fear…


I don’t know why I like you, I just do.
I don’t know why I know that I could love you,
And hope that one day, before you go away,
You’ll be able to tell and tell me that you feel the same,
makes you my missed connection, that I see most everyday.

What a fucked up post


I stomped on your fire, you choked on a biscuit – 

You: passed out on the grass after choking on a biscuit and slamming your car into a guardrail at Franklin and Harding
Me: driver of silver bug with 2 women in the car who stopped and put your car fire out.

It’s been a bad month, so if you would get me a new fire extinguisher, I would appreciate it. Also don’t eat while driving in the future, it’s dangerous, as you discovered.


west oly produce stand -You…sultry, attractive woman blonde hair, fabulous jeans! We shared a moment over the peppers.


Was on my way to the gym when stuck at a redlight on Casino & 5th….when you came into view in yout loose kaki pants sporting a huge boner…..yes I had to circle back for a couple looks cause just couldn’t believe my eyes…last time I circled back you must have reached where you were headed on Corbin,…..super longshot…but yes it was that interesting the whole package not just the boner..if you’d like to hook-up for some relief


You are – flawless yourself:-)

And….There is….




To the very hot female state patrol officer: Thank you for making my workout more pleasant than usual. If you pulled me over I wouldn’t even mind the ticket:). Your leg and butt workout today is having the desired results… Just FYI…


I’m a total loser for writing this on Craigslist but… whatever. I’m terrible at talking to new people. I dig you… in a way that is bordering on creepy. Whenever I see you my legs get all flimsy and my brain shuts down and all I can manage to do is stare at the floor like an invalid.


if i’ve ever seemed indecisive, it’s because i’ve always been fascinated by the nature of quantum possibility. we can never really open the box of schroedinger’s cat, and as long as we never do, all things are possible. until we make a decision, we live in all possible worlds, where anything can happen. our world is broad and full of potential. we can have any possible life. but now i’ve learned the truth: that i would forsake all possible lives, all possible worlds in exchange for just a single life with you.


Thai-Spiced Watermelon Soup with Crabmeat – (yes I got this from a link under the food section on CL)

  • 5 cups coarsely chopped seeded watermelon (from a 4-lb piece, rind discarded)
  • 1 fresh lemongrass stalk*
  • 3 tablespoons finely chopped shallot
  • 1 1/2 tablespoons finely chopped peeled fresh ginger
  • 1 tablespoon finely chopped garlic
  • 1 1/2 tablespoons mild olive oil
  • 1 small hot green chile such as Thai or serrano, finely chopped (including seeds), or to taste
  • 2 tablespoons fresh lime juice, or to taste
  • 3/4 teaspoon salt, or to taste

For crab

  • 10 oz jumbo lump crabmeat (2 cups), picked over
  • 1/4 cup finely chopped fresh cilantro
  • 1 1/2 tablespoons mild olive oil
  • 1/4 teaspoon salt, or to taste

Make soup:
Purée watermelon in a blender until smooth and transfer to a bowl. (Don’t wash blender.)

Discard 1 or 2 outer leaves of lemongrass and trim root end. Thinly slice lower 5 to 6 inches of stalk and then mince, discarding remainder.

Cook lemongrass, shallot, ginger, and garlic in oil in a 2-quart heavy saucepan over moderately low heat, stirring, until aromatics are pale golden, about 5 minutes. Add about one third of watermelon purée and simmer over moderate heat, stirring, 5 minutes.

Remove watermelon mixture from heat, then transfer to blender along with chile, lime juice, and salt and blend until smooth (use caution when blending hot liquids).

Add remaining watermelon purée and blend briefly. Season soup with more chile, lime juice, and salt if desired, blending if necessary. Pour soup through a sieve into a bowl, pressing on and then discarding any solids. Chill soup, uncovered, about 2 hours if serving cold, or reheat in cleaned saucepan.

Prepare crab:
Toss crabmeat with cilantro, oil, and salt. Divide crab among 4 soup bowls.


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