The other night I had a long talk with a friend of mine who came for dinner and didn’t complain that it was mediocre at best. We started off with the topic du jour – the European banking scandal. You see, before he came to live in Oly, he lived in London. He was in the financial industry. He lived in “the city” with an unlimited expenses account, high-brow drinking buddies, and hot woman. He left.
We sat on either end of the couch drinking wine and letting our conversation meander along until I asked about “the Russian” – his on-again, off-again girlfriend. My friend has terrible taste in women. It’s not that they aren’t pretty, talented or smart. It is that they are volatile, self-absorbed, and harsh.
He was married once before. Happily. They decided to start a family only to discover that his wife had breast cancer.
“When she died, it was like a miracle,” he said, with just a hint of sadness and a deep sense of awe. “It was horrible and beautiful all at the same time. That is when I knew that we are not just biology, we are temporal too, in a way that we are just starting to understand. I felt like I was witnessing a different kind of birth.”
“That last, deep breath that slowly escapes someones lips and continues and continues to go out until you are sure that they have just gone somewhere else….I know,” I said. I didn’t know nearly as well as he did. How can you follow up a miracle? Life is a mystery. Time is a mystery. Not like a river, but more like a frozen river where each moment still exists. We talk about our selves as things and we talk about the “flow of time”, but time is a thing and we are the process. Every time I think of JJ or anyone else who has said “everything changes” my heart breaks a little more for their youthful naivete. The change does not come from outside you, the change is inside you.
“Somewhere out in time, we are still doing what we were doing then. Maybe reading the paper together over breakfast..” he said. It was comforting. Somewhere out in time maybe I exist with someone I love too.
How to Make Scrambled Eggs
The secret to making moist, fluffy scrambled eggs is all in the scrambling. You’ll need low, gentle heat and patience to make perfect scrambled eggs.