A Love Story – This is a story about a friend of mine. I relate it because it is a story of true love. She is a beautiful young woman from the mid west. Thin, with golden blond hair that she usually twists up into a haphazard bun, glasses, she wears no make-up, born into a liberal family, educated and charming. When she went to college she fell in love with a young man from Sri Lanka. He came from a conservative, fairly religious traditional Indian family. He fell in love with her. They were the best of friends, they talked long into the night, the laughed together and they sometimes struggled with their lives together. In spite of their strong friendship and love after about two years, they parted. He could not tell his family who he was dating, she could not understand his emotional detachment and his ways of showing affection….
What do you think the ending of this story is? How brave are any of us in love? How many of us can recognize love when it comes to us wrapped in a package that is not what we, our family or our society expects? What do you think the ending to their story is?
We are all seeking the experience of love. Why is it sometimes so elusive? I think, because it lives in two worlds, the heart world and waking world. In the real world we have expectations. Definitives.
In the world of our hearts there are no definitives. No black and white, but an ethical ambiguity. No permanence, but in love we find something enduring. What we desire is to hear the words, yes and yes I said yes I will Yes.
The question of the day is when you make your list of expectations, do you use nouns or verbs?
First published in 1813, Pride and Prejudice has consistently been Jane Austen’s most popular novel. It portrays life in the genteel rural society of the day, and tells of the initial misunderstandings and later mutual enlightenment between Elizabeth Bennet and the haughty Darcy. The title Pride and Prejudice refers (among other things) to the ways in which Elizabeth and Darcy first view each other. The original version of the novel was written in 1796-1797 under the title First Impressions, and was probably in the form of an exchange of letters.