Why do we ignore people? “Just stop responding” was my friends advise the other day. He likes to just walk away from things when he gets uncomfortable. I know why, because it makes you feel powerful, in control. You are not a victim, a pitiful person in need of something, right? You do not have to humble yourself or swallow your pride. It’s a bitter thing anyway.
Or maybe because it’s easy. Easier than learning something new. Easier than examining your own beliefs or feelings. Selfishness feels good because it is comfortable, it takes away the want or need that drains us. Selfishness has immediate results.
But it eats at your soul until one day you realize you don’t trust anyone. It’s never really obvious, and maybe it sounds like this in your head, “I just don’t feel confident things will work out, because… so, I’m going to look for something better.” Or perhaps it sounds like this, “You did….and it made me feel…..” Or this, “I just can’t handle the drama.” I use the last one myself. These are the reasons you use to justify your actions. And you are left with the only person who makes you feel better, yourself.
Are you that person who walks away? Why do you not trust? Maybe because you have every reason to believe that everyone else will act like you.
Cheese Souffle for One (from Delish.com)
- 2 1/2 teaspoon(s) butter
- 1 tablespoon(s) grated Parmesan
- 1 tablespoon(s) all-purpose flour
- 1/3 cup(s) milk
- 1 large pinch of salt
- 1 small pinch of paprika
- 1 egg yolk
- 2 egg whites
- 1/3 cup(s) grated cheese such as Cheddar or Swiss , tightly packed
- Smear 1/2 teaspoon softened butter around inside of a souffle; dish, and sprinkle Parmesan over it. Preheat oven to 425 degrees F.
- Melt 2 teaspoons butter in a small pot, and stir in flour. Let cook over low heat for a minute, then remove from heat. Pour in milk, whisking vigorously, and return pot to medium-low heat to simmer for a minute, stirring constantly as the sauce thickens. Season with salt and paprika. Remove from heat, and whisk in egg yolk.
- Put egg whites in a clean bowl and beat until they form soft peaks. Add a dollop of egg whites to pot, and mix in along with about half of grated cheese. Fold in remaining egg whites and cheese; transfer everything to the prepared soufflé dish. Place dish on a baking sheet, and set it in the middle of the oven. Turn heat down to 375 degrees F;, and bake 18 minutes, until soufflé has risen and top is lightly browned.