“There are many scapegoats for our sins, but the most popular one is Providence.” – Mark Twain, Notebook, 1898
“Salvation point mentality says it’s got to come from someplace out there, and not from within, so we can have a savior or a UFO come down and save us at the last minute.” That, he says, “is not going to happen because that implies there will only be a chosen one, which cannot be within Lakota philosophy since we are all responsible for each other.”– Interview with Ghosthorse from Nativetimes.com
If we don’t buy into the idea that some supernatural force, like God, Aliens, etc. will come and save us, why then do we not understand the idea of personal sovereignty as it applies to our emotions? Why do we believe so often that we will embark on a relationship with someone who will save us, lead us, teach us, bring us to a partnership nirvana.
When you place blame in a relationship you are creating a black and white, good vs. evil situation. A salvation point mentality puts the responsibility to do good or to make things work onto the other person and off of you. When we think “if they would only….then I would….” we give our power away. What would you do first? Because the deed creates the doer. As ironic as it may seem, when we are vulnerable to each other we maintain our own power.
Asking someone to help you and asking someone to save you are two different things. JJ said that he had expected me to lead him. I wanted to say to him, “I can’t be your savior. I can be you companion, your friend, your comfort, your shelter, your partner. I can share these difficulties and responsibilities with you.” I think that we cannot be responsible to anything else of importance unless we are first responsible for ourselves and to each other. Are you going to wait or are you going to participate?
Squash Blossom and Corn Soup (from what’s cooking Mexico)
- 3 cups chicken or vegetable broth
- 1/2 onion, chopped
- 1 garlic clove, minced
- 2 TBSP olive oil
- 100 gr squash blossoms, rinsed and without the stems
- 1 Oaxacan pasilla dried pepeer, cleaned (you can replace this with onechipotle pepper)
- 1 cup fresh corn kernels
- salt and pepper to taste
- 1/2 tsp basil
- 1/2 tsp rosemary
- 1/2 cup sour cream (optional)
- In a large sauce pan sautee onion and garlic in olive oil.
- Blend squash blossoms and pepper with 1 cup of the chicken broth.
- Pour in sauce pan and add the rest of the broth.
- Add corn kernels and cover.
- When it starts to boil add basil, rosemary and season to taste. Reduce heat to low.
- Optional: Add sour cream and stir until it blends with the soup.
- Simmer for 10-15 minutes and serve hot.
“We must widen the circle of our love until it embraces the whole village; the village in turn must take into its fold the district; the district the province, and so on till the scope of our love encompasses the world.”— Gandhi
“True compassion is not just an emotional response but a firm commitment founded on reason.” Dahli Lama